6 Tips for being a mom with fibromyalgia

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I am sure every parent out there can agree raising children is one of the most wonderful adventures you will go on, and also the toughest job you will ever have. Add a chronic illness to that and the difficulty increases tenfold. But being a parent and suffering from fibromyalgia can also bring a lot of blessings and joy. As the mother of a busy, active almost 2-year-old son, I have discovered few things that make life a little bit easier for us. Of course, this has mostly been through trial and error, but that is what parenting ill about, right??

1. Accept imperfection

This covers a lot of things. You will not be a perfect parent; you will not have a perfect child. Your house will not be perfect, your outfits and the baby’s outfits will not be perfect. What you eat and what you feed your baby will not be perfect. If you are anything like me, while pregnant you have this image in your mind of exactly what kind of parent you will be and how life will go. But you quickly learn things rarely go the way you think you will. This is especially true when you have a chronic illness that changes from one day to another-even one hour to the next.

2. One good days, focus on your children

There are plenty of days I physically cannot get up and play with my son. So on the days I am feeling better I try to make sure I spend some quality time doing something fun with him; even it is only for a few minutes at a time. If it’s nice out we go out for a walk or play in the yard. If the weather is not good we stay in and play with toys, we kick or throw a ball around, we dance, we chase each other around the house. We also might go out for a trip to the library. On days I can’t do much I try to make sure to still spend some time with him reading or coloring-easy and low key activities I can handle. I will also sometimes sit and throw the ball back and forth with him.

3. Explain why you need to rest

Children are much smarter than most of us give them credit for. Be up front and explain, depending on their age, why you can’t go outside and play and why you are not able to play as long as they would like. With my son I simply tell him, ‘mom doesn’t feel good”, I need to sit down right now. I explain to him that I would like to play with him, but I need to sit. I then offer to do something with him that can be done on the couch. I have found most of the time he responds well and is okay with it. It sometimes amazes me at how understanding and compassionate he can be.

4. Focus on what is most important

There will days when you barely have the strength to stand up for more than a few minutes at a time. On these days, decide what should come first for you and your child. The things that they need most are food, medications, supplements and rest. Your needs are equally as important as your child’s. The things they most need are food, diapers/potty training depending on their age and nap time. As a parent your first instinct may be to pull all of your time and energy into your child, but this will lead to you being completely burned out without anything left to give. That will not be beneficial for anyone involved.

5. Play up your child’s strength

Every child is an individual with their own strengths and weaknesses. I have watched my son and found that he is independent, he likes having a say in everything, he likes helping, and he likes being praised for his efforts. So to help our day go just a bit more smoothly, I have learned to allow him a measure of independence whenever possible. I give him choices in what he wears, eats, play with, reads, watches on TV-even which bowl, plate, and cup he uses. They may seem like little things to me, but they make him happy and things go smoother.

6. Accept help

This has been a challenge for me, as part of my image of what motherhood would be like was spending all day, every day with my son- I would be the one teaching him, training him, playing with him. Passing him off to someone else was not part of my perfect scenario. My husband has a decent job that allows me to stay at home, so I genuinely thought I was all set for my dream life. But as I mentioned before, reality sets in hard once you actually become a parent.

Babies and children are harder to care for than you ever knew, and even good days have potential to drain you and leave you exhausted beyond belief. Being a mom with fibromyalgia can bring extra challenges, but if offers just as many blessings and benefits. It may take some time, but finds what work best for your family. Remember to enjoy your children while they are still little because the hardest part of the parenthood is how quickly they grow up. Read Also:

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